This guy named "J"

Now, I have not reason to not like this guys. Wait, now that I think of it... I do. To start off he is my oldest son's biological father (aka, sperm donor). Well, when I met T, she was pregnant by him. However, once she had told him that she was pregnant he started avoiding her. Okay, he was in the Army, stationed somewhere out of state and she was here in the valley. He would come back to the valley to visit he would not tell her that he was in town. How she would find out that he had come down, was comments from friends on his Myspace page. Why would some one do that? You have sex with someone, get her pregnant, then ignore her. There is A LOT of guys that do that, and it just pisses me off. If you don't want a child, you don't love the woman, or "afraid" or whatever your excuse is, JUST SAY IT!!!

I asked her, how could you go back to someone who ignored you, especially when you needed him the most? Her excuse for him was that "he did not know better." I am sorry but COME ON!!! How can you "not know better?" All through childhood and especially the teen years, like high school, people tell you about that kind of stuff. So how does someone... never mind. Then as soon as he knew that T and I were married he started to try to get her back. Fortunately, she is a faithful woman to be with.

Now, I am just blowing off steam, because this was my biggest fear when I got with her in the beginning. And now it has come to reality. I can't control her and she already knows how I feel. I still do love her but my only concern is now just my two boys. My Biggest concern in my first son (c1). He calls me Daddy. I have been there before he was born. I don't want him to try to have C1 call him Daddy. Maybe if, J's relationship with T lasts long enough and C1 decides to call him dad on his own, that's fine. This would be his choice.

This is all I have on this "article." My point is that I have seen people force a new parent to the child and the kid gets confused. Now, there probably be confusion on this situation, but that will later be explained when the time is right. And, I am trying not to be negitive twards him, he may actually be a good guy. I dont hate him, I do not even know him, just what T tells me. I guess am just jelous or evious...